Managing Grief with Reiki

May 31, 2025

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In the past three months, I have experienced much loss in my family. My eldest son, my dear elder dog and elder cat all crossed over the Rainbow Bridge one at a time.

What I have learned, on a profoundly healing level, is how effective and soothing Reiki has been for myself and my loved ones; those who have passed away, and those still here on this Earth. Reiki has been a foundational tool for all of my personal growth and emotional maturity. Through all the healing aspects of self, Reiki was what helped me get through it all. Reiki allowed me to manage my grief lovingly and compassionately. It showed me that I am in control of my needs, and that I have support all around me, if I need it. I asked for help through my spiritual practice with what I needed, and I realized I had the strength to accomplish much more on my own than I thought I could.

I can wholeheartedly confirm that Reiki helps manage the grief of having loved ones cross over, and helps folks transition to the other side with power, dignity and in peace. Reiki empowers individuals as they navigate this significant transition. In the early years of the Reiki Group Healing Team, we had the privilege of assisting clients’ loved ones cross over with beauty and grace. In one particular case, I was astounded by the energy that a Grandmother had for her crossing. We could sense her aura's energy so strongly that she needed little help from us. She did it in her way with ease, grace, beauty and flow. It was truly an empowering experience for all of us who were there to witness it. We had done an integrated Shamanic Reiki healing for her six months before she went to the hospice, to help extend her time on Earth. She only wanted enough time to complete a few more things before her transition, and she did. The Reiki energy made it a smooth transition for her, and it was appreciated by her family, who found it a relief.

I have witnessed powerful and peaceful crossings with the help of Reiki many times, and most recently with my dog, Osito, and our lovely cat, Alice. Alice was nineteen and a half, and a big part of our Reiki world. She made sure we were close to her, sending her Reiki, as she passed away peacefully. Osito, “little O”, as a lot of us referred to him, had heart failure and was struggling for air. We were with him at the vet, administering Reiki for him too, as he passed peacefully.

Unfortunately, very recently, my son also died unexpectedly. We still don’t know why he collapsed while joyfully walking across the street. Nothing medically or physically was evident. I do know that each soul has chosen a time when it desires to cross. With my son’s crossing, as we were not with him at the time, I was able to send him Reiki love for a swift crossing over the bardo, a time of soul resolve or recapitulation, once we learned of his fate. There is much to his story that I will share at another time, with other topics that may be helpful to you. My personal journey to heal myself and my practice of helping others also helped him heal. It is a truly remarkable story that I may share one day. My skills and gifts in energy-healing modalities were a comfort for me. No parent ever wishes to see their children pass before them. The most precious gift that my son left for us is our beautiful granddaughter, who is now an adult. How fortunate we are to have a piece of him still here with us.

It is truly a healing experience to share this, but most of all, I want to express how comforting Reiki has been in helping me and my family over these past three months. I credit the ease, flow and grace we have been able to experience in these grieving times to the fantastic healing energy of Reiki.

I have compiled some practices that I have used during my personal Reiki journey, and most recently to help with grief. These tips for self-care during the loss of a loved one can help you. These practices are for everyone, no matter what level or amount of experience you have with Reiki:

Tips for Self-Care During the Loss of a Loved One

Set a healing intention for yourself, right before bedtime. Allow the intention to unfold in the dreamtime.
Use Reiki and/or intend self-healing every day. Focus your attention on the heart chakra; send yourself love and acceptance.
Ensure you are grounded every day. I went into nature, and when the weather did not permit, I used my grounding mat.
Allow yourself time to acknowledge the loss and process your emotions. After a while, ensure you resume your everyday routines again.
Check in with yourself 3 to 4 times a day to monitor how your emotions are being expressed. Notice if you are short with folks, or jumping into stories of blame or guilt. You should pause and allow yourself to feel even deeper.
Consult a Reiki practitioner for guidance. Even if you are attuned to Reiki and a practitioner yourself, it helps to be part of a community and receive personalized strategies to support your personal practice.
Spend time with a dear, close friend who is supportive and there for you.
Take time off so you have space to take care of yourself. If you are your own boss, block out time in your schedule so you are not disturbed.
Set up an altar with items that resonate with you or your loved one, whatever you are intuitively drawn to. Use it as a focus point to send energy, prayers, or to meditate.
Do a crossing-over ceremony, either on your own or have someone do it for you.
Remember them. Find something special to wear, like a pin, or carry a small item as a reminder that they walk with you. We are one with all that is of source.
Consult a medium or intuitive. If you have questions about what happened to your loved one, a consult or simply a chat with someone who is strongly connected to Spirit can help you resolve feelings or come to terms with your grief.

If you need help facilitating any steps or still feel stuck, reach out. A little guidance will take you far. Alternatively, try a Tarot/Oracle Reading from Ki Lifestyleand a Shamanic Akashic Record reading. Shamanic and Reiki sessions are also available for assemblage shifting or other issues. These are helpful tools to gain insight, find what keeps you stuck, and help you create strategies to achieve your goals.

~ Namaste & Many Blessings!

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Reiki and "The Veil"

By Carell Mehl • September 30, 2025

The ‘Veil' - the dividing line between the divine, and this physical construct of earth. So many of us still don’t see the magic that can be witnessed between here and there. Often, you will hear that the veil is thinner than it has been at other times of the year, or during a spiritual retreat or ceremony. We are the creators of our existence. We have the power to make this happen, whether we are attuned and initiated into Reiki, or not. The difference between having Reiki as a lifestyle, as opposed to not having it, was revealed to me over the past couple of years. I see how quickly people are learning what took me 10 to 15 years to accomplish. Good news for those who waited, and also for those who started three decades ago. The time construct is an illusion. Time doesn’t exist, so really, we are all precisely where we need to be. Comparison using a timeline, really, is a process of our perceptions and what we align with in the moment. For example, I am currently in a new meditation practice, and a new experience has arisen. In this experience, a whole new reality unfolds, presenting a new opportunity to gain a deeper understanding of myself, and create more extraordinary experiences. Reiki will bring us all to this place eventually, guided and protected so our childlike wonder can develop and take us beyond the veil. Can we achieve this without Reiki? Absolutely, but as a person who is sensitive to energy, I find this modality has given me the love and grace to explore with childlike wonder. I still get to listen to, and follow my higher knowing, and it insists that I do so, but I get to move along at the pace of growth that serves me best (even if my ego thinks differently). Not all of it has been easy, but as parents allow their child to learn to walk and become more human, so does God, Spirit and the creator, allow us to develop in whatever way is intended for each of us. This reflection has both positive and negative aspects, from which we can learn. Soon, the child knows not to touch the hot flame or burning wood. Beyond the veil is where we can heal ourselves physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. This is where the supernatural kicks in. As this human experience unfolds, we get to observe, watch and learn. Become the watcher, become the magician, and orchestrate the reality your eyes desire to see. There is no prescribed timing, or amount of required waiting. We only need to allow flow, let go, and enjoy the experience. This is only possible when we are the closest to the veil, or when there is the thinning of the veil, as the veil itself on this side of the human experience creates the illusion. Reality awaits beyond the veil—the experience where we heal, grow, and evolve into our life purpose, the place of our universal connection to our creator self, and where we recognize who our guides, teachers, and higher self are, as well as the reality we desire to be in. When invoking the Cho-ku-Rei symbol, take your time, do it with intention and focus. Pause and wait to feel the energy. Really, DO NOT RUSH. Feel it, know it, and understand it. Even if we are seasoned masters, and have been doing it for a long time, this is all the more reason to do this step with intentional clarity and smoothness. As the veils are so very, very thin, you may be surprised by the magic, and how reality can change into beauty so quickly. If we spend too much time in a single state when we're out in the world, we can get stuck. If we no longer like this experience, we sometimes forget that we have the power and tools to change it. Reiki keeps us tuned and connected to creating our desired reality. Tips for aligning with the “Veil”: Invoke Reiki. Use the Cho-ku-Rei and Sei-hei-ki symbols and ground them into the Earth. Be slow and precise, and pause for at least 40 to 90 seconds after you invoke the emblem. Energy flow. Breathe and move the energy down to the one-point (Tan Tien). Open-heart connection. Simply touch the centre of your chest with your thumbs, keeping them in a prayer mudra position. Surrender. Open up to receive with childlike wonder. Calm the mind. Hear your breath or a continuous noise - no thought. Meditation. Starting with a simple OM Meditation is excellent, 10 to 15 minutes, allow yourself to feel. Breathing. Circle your breath - up from the bottom of the left foot and up the body over the crown, and then exhale down the right side. Consult your inner knowing. See if your inner knowing relays any messages, images, or body sensations. Pay attention . An image is worth a thousand words. Journal. Write, dream and create what those meanings are for you. Take action. Move and do one thing that brings reality closer to you. If you need help facilitating any steps, or still feel stuck, reach out. A little guidance will take you far. Alternatively, try a Tarot/Oracle Reading from Ki Lifestyle and a Shamanic Akashic Record reading. Shamanic and Reiki sessions are also available for assemblage shifting or other issues. These tools help gain insight, identify what keeps you stuck, and create strategies to achieve your goals. ~ Namaste & Many Blessings!