Identify Energy Depleting Clients & Learn How To Let It Go
June 11, 2021
The desire to help others resolve their emotional issues is inherent in most coaches and healers. It requires commitment and accountability to ensure the success of the healing process. Sometimes though, success is hindered by compatibility issues or a client’s lack of commitment. This can negatively impact the relationship and deplete your energy field. It can also alter your ability to help these types of clients as they tend to take more from you then you are able to give. This is particularly difficult for empathic coaches and healers. Thus, it is important to learn how to identify energy depleting clients and then how to let it go.
Compatibility in a healing journey is necessary and not all healers are right for each client. It is important to recognize if it is the right fit. If you are unable to help certain clients, do not blame or judge yourself. Your ego will naturally be wounded and self doubt will creep in. You may feel that you have failed. You must remember that you cannot take it personally. It is not a criticism against you and has nothing to do with your abilities. It has everything to do with protecting your energy field and helping your client. Indeed, sometimes the best way to help is by referring them to another healer.
If the client is not committed to the healing journey, you cannot force them to comply. You will be able to recognize this type of client if, after three or four sessions, there is no change. The client will continue to have the same issues and you will continue to offer the same advice. You will begin to feel like a broken record. This is because the client has not transformed or there is evidence that they are not doing any of the follow-up work. They will be unable to process and embody what you are telling them because they either do not or cannot help themselves. This will definitely impact your energy and you may feel drained or exhausted after each session.
So, now that you are able to identify energy depleting clients, how do you just let it go?
Perhaps the largest obstacle to overcome is silencing the ego. The ego is responsible for all of the fear and doubt surrounding your decisions. These fears can include: fear of scarcity (loss of income) and fear of perception (what others will think). You will need to clear the energy in your body to alleviate these fears. To clear the energy, you must first detach. To detach, you need to be aware of the energy and set an intention to clear it. This can be achieved by using breath work, meditation and walking in nature. You can also combine the intent to move energy out while engaging in any type of body movement such as dance, jogging or other physical activity. Remember that your energy is far more important than money.
Once you have cleared your energy, it is important to envision your ideal client. This client would embody your vision and respect your boundaries. You can create an assessment form that asks specific questions to determine whether new clients will meet your criteria. This will allow you to decline the clients that do not share your views. In being choosy, you are saving yourself a lot of time and energy loss. Finally, you will be able to hear your innate self more clearly which will tell you exactly what you need. This will allow you to release any doubts and you will realize that you are important enough. In following these steps, you can create a strong network and community.
If you are experiencing any of these issues, Ki Lifestyle Solutions offers many services that could be beneficial. You can email us at carell@kilifestyle.ca or via our website at kilifestyle.ca/contact, if you have any questions or require further information. Inspire, Heal, Grow! Namaste!
The ‘Veil' - the dividing line between the divine, and this physical construct of earth. So many of us still don’t see the magic that can be witnessed between here and there. Often, you will hear that the veil is thinner than it has been at other times of the year, or during a spiritual retreat or ceremony. We are the creators of our existence. We have the power to make this happen, whether we are attuned and initiated into Reiki, or not. The difference between having Reiki as a lifestyle, as opposed to not having it, was revealed to me over the past couple of years. I see how quickly people are learning what took me 10 to 15 years to accomplish. Good news for those who waited, and also for those who started three decades ago. The time construct is an illusion. Time doesn’t exist, so really, we are all precisely where we need to be. Comparison using a timeline, really, is a process of our perceptions and what we align with in the moment. For example, I am currently in a new meditation practice, and a new experience has arisen. In this experience, a whole new reality unfolds, presenting a new opportunity to gain a deeper understanding of myself, and create more extraordinary experiences. Reiki will bring us all to this place eventually, guided and protected so our childlike wonder can develop and take us beyond the veil. Can we achieve this without Reiki? Absolutely, but as a person who is sensitive to energy, I find this modality has given me the love and grace to explore with childlike wonder. I still get to listen to, and follow my higher knowing, and it insists that I do so, but I get to move along at the pace of growth that serves me best (even if my ego thinks differently). Not all of it has been easy, but as parents allow their child to learn to walk and become more human, so does God, Spirit and the creator, allow us to develop in whatever way is intended for each of us. This reflection has both positive and negative aspects, from which we can learn. Soon, the child knows not to touch the hot flame or burning wood. Beyond the veil is where we can heal ourselves physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. This is where the supernatural kicks in. As this human experience unfolds, we get to observe, watch and learn. Become the watcher, become the magician, and orchestrate the reality your eyes desire to see. There is no prescribed timing, or amount of required waiting. We only need to allow flow, let go, and enjoy the experience. This is only possible when we are the closest to the veil, or when there is the thinning of the veil, as the veil itself on this side of the human experience creates the illusion. Reality awaits beyond the veil—the experience where we heal, grow, and evolve into our life purpose, the place of our universal connection to our creator self, and where we recognize who our guides, teachers, and higher self are, as well as the reality we desire to be in. When invoking the Cho-ku-Rei symbol, take your time, do it with intention and focus. Pause and wait to feel the energy. Really, DO NOT RUSH. Feel it, know it, and understand it. Even if we are seasoned masters, and have been doing it for a long time, this is all the more reason to do this step with intentional clarity and smoothness. As the veils are so very, very thin, you may be surprised by the magic, and how reality can change into beauty so quickly. If we spend too much time in a single state when we're out in the world, we can get stuck. If we no longer like this experience, we sometimes forget that we have the power and tools to change it. Reiki keeps us tuned and connected to creating our desired reality. Tips for aligning with the “Veil”: Invoke Reiki. Use the Cho-ku-Rei and Sei-hei-ki symbols and ground them into the Earth. Be slow and precise, and pause for at least 40 to 90 seconds after you invoke the emblem. Energy flow. Breathe and move the energy down to the one-point (Tan Tien). Open-heart connection. Simply touch the centre of your chest with your thumbs, keeping them in a prayer mudra position. Surrender. Open up to receive with childlike wonder. Calm the mind. Hear your breath or a continuous noise - no thought. Meditation. Starting with a simple OM Meditation is excellent, 10 to 15 minutes, allow yourself to feel. Breathing. Circle your breath - up from the bottom of the left foot and up the body over the crown, and then exhale down the right side. Consult your inner knowing. See if your inner knowing relays any messages, images, or body sensations. Pay attention . An image is worth a thousand words. Journal. Write, dream and create what those meanings are for you. Take action. Move and do one thing that brings reality closer to you. If you need help facilitating any steps, or still feel stuck, reach out. A little guidance will take you far. Alternatively, try a Tarot/Oracle Reading from Ki Lifestyle and a Shamanic Akashic Record reading. Shamanic and Reiki sessions are also available for assemblage shifting or other issues. These tools help gain insight, identify what keeps you stuck, and create strategies to achieve your goals. ~ Namaste & Many Blessings!
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