The desire to help others resolve their emotional issues is inherent in most coaches and healers. It requires commitment and accountability to ensure the success of the healing process. Sometimes though, success is hindered by compatibility issues or a client’s lack of commitment. This can negatively impact the relationship and deplete your energy field. It can also alter your ability to help these types of clients as they tend to take more from you then you are able to give. This is particularly difficult for empathic coaches and healers. Thus, it is important to learn how to identify energy depleting clients and then how to let it go.
Compatibility in a healing journey is necessary and not all healers are right for each client. It is important to recognize if it is the right fit. If you are unable to help certain clients, do not blame or judge yourself. Your ego will naturally be wounded and self doubt will creep in. You may feel that you have failed. You must remember that you cannot take it personally. It is not a criticism against you and has nothing to do with your abilities. It has everything to do with protecting your energy field and helping your client. Indeed, sometimes the best way to help is by referring them to another healer.
If the client is not committed to the healing journey, you cannot force them to comply. You will be able to recognize this type of client if, after three or four sessions, there is no change. The client will continue to have the same issues and you will continue to offer the same advice. You will begin to feel like a broken record. This is because the client has not transformed or there is evidence that they are not doing any of the follow-up work. They will be unable to process and embody what you are telling them because they either do not or cannot help themselves. This will definitely impact your energy and you may feel drained or exhausted after each session.
So, now that you are able to identify energy depleting clients, how do you just let it go?
Perhaps the largest obstacle to overcome is silencing the ego. The ego is responsible for all of the fear and doubt surrounding your decisions. These fears can include: fear of scarcity (loss of income) and fear of perception (what others will think). You will need to clear the energy in your body to alleviate these fears. To clear the energy, you must first detach. To detach, you need to be aware of the energy and set an intention to clear it. This can be achieved by using breath work, meditation and walking in nature. You can also combine the intent to move energy out while engaging in any type of body movement such as dance, jogging or other physical activity. Remember that your energy is far more important than money.
Once you have cleared your energy, it is important to envision your ideal client. This client would embody your vision and respect your boundaries. You can create an assessment form that asks specific questions to determine whether new clients will meet your criteria. This will allow you to decline the clients that do not share your views. In being choosy, you are saving yourself a lot of time and energy loss. Finally, you will be able to hear your innate self more clearly which will tell you exactly what you need. This will allow you to release any doubts and you will realize that you are important enough. In following these steps, you can create a strong network and community.
If you are experiencing any of these issues, Ki Lifestyle Solutions offers many services that could be beneficial. You can email us at carell@kilifestyle.ca or via our website at kilifestyle.ca/contact, if you have any questions or require further information. Inspire, Heal, Grow! Namaste!
